You again, in my head again

He has drifted farther away and so have I. He no longer visits me in my dreams and he has no longer summoned me in his own dreams. There are times I think about him out of the blue. And it made me wonder why. Is it perhaps because he has suddenly thought about me? Does he miss me too? I ask, but I know I will never have answers to this anymore. He used to say I am stupid for not even thinking that he really does by default love me and I need not ask these questions anymore. But if it were true that actions speak louder than words, how do I put it when there are no more words and actions to compare it from?